Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Love Yourself Tuesday

Welcome to the second installment of Love Yourself tuesday. One of the difficulties in loving oneself is that our society encourages competition. Competitions have winner and losers, and we get in the habit of ranking and judging and then seeing how we measure up. This starts early. Parents want their kid potty-trained before the neighbor's kid. Each new word is carefully noted in the baby book and grandparents are given careful accounts of how big their grandchild's vocabulary is. When it appears that the child is not ahead of someone excuses are made. Strengths are pointed out. The total acceptance that should accompany unconditional love all to often appears to shrink.

School entrance just ups the ante. Schools are full of judging and ranking. There are the A students and the C students and the F students. There are those kids who are good (meaning docile in the classroom) and those who are naughty (all too often meaning active and independent.) As the years progress, students start judging themselves. Categorizing themselves as jocks or nerds, popular or outsiders.

The truth is we are all different! We all have our own things that make us happy and fulfilled. We all have different types of people that we like to spend time with. Each of us is a unique individual who cannot be ranked in a scale of better or worse. One of the best ways to start truly loving yourself is to stop judging and ranking. Start by stopping with others, and it will be easier to apply to yourself.

The next time you meet someone don't think about how much money he or she has, or what they do for a living, or how fat or thin they are, or their home or family situation. Instead listen to that person and think about who he or she is. Only they can define themselves. Any of the initial observations that you may make may or not factor as an important part of that person's life.

Then, when you think about yourself, do not think that you are fatter than so and so. Do not think that you don't make as much money, or live in such a big house, or take as many vacations. When you think about yourself, think about what you love to do. Think about what you want and need in your life. Strive to live for yourself doing those things that matter to you. By being the best you you can be, you will be your happiest, and when you are your happiest you will be in the best position to have a positive influence on others and the world.

Food & Exercise

11:00 Breakfast - 1/2 grapefruit, 2 slices corn breakfast bread with butter & honey, large mug coffee with 3 packets aspartame based sweetener & liquid flavored creamer

2:00 Lunch - 2 cups of leftover gumbo with rice

4:30 Snack - 11 spice jelly beans, 1 starlight spearmint

7:15 Snack - 1 tomato, 1 saltine spread lightly with cream cheese

9:00 Dinner- 1 large bowl of chicken & dumplings, 1 large bowl of tossed salad with dressing, 1/2 c. 7-up with anti-oxidants

1 comment:

Rachel said...

I think that because we all have different opinions about what makes a person successful then we have no rights to judge others. Just because we do not see them as successful it does not mean that they are not happy with their life and what they have achieved. As you say we should not judge based on our opinions but think about things from their point of view.